There is a lot of negative media today that surrounds the use of drugs and people who use them. As we all know, drug abuse is not good for the person using them. However this does not mean every drug abuser is trying to throw away their lives on purpose. There are many influential and successful people who have turned to drugs in their darkest hour. This does not mean that these people are hooligans and murderers trying to ruin everyone else’s lives that they come across. For example, they may have made one bad decision on a night when they were broken about their recent divorce, and from thereon they were hooked on whatever poison they chose. This does not allow us to judge them and pin them as bad people because their unfortunate circumstances led them to a place where they felt they needed to turn to drugs. This means we should feel lucky we did not experience that and try our best to help them, not put them down. Everyone deserves a second chance and no one deserves to feel ashamed and guilty for one bad decision they made. The stress for that person; maybe the head of the family, to turn to his wife and kids and tell them he is struggling with a drug addiction might be so overwhelming that he never finds the courage to do so. From this point on, who knows what could happen? His addiction could worsen and one fatal overdose is all it takes for his life to be taken from this Earth. It is much the fault of the media for the shame and guilt from drugs that many people feel when confessing they have an addiction and it shouldn’t be that way. That’s why I want to help those suffering from a drug addiction, and I want them to give them the courage to step forward and confront their problems head on.
How does it make you feel?
If you were to step in front of the mirror, take a long look at yourself, and confess to yourself that you are an addict, with no control of your addiction and no idea how to turn it around. How does that make you feel? How does it make you feel to admit you are helpless in your situation? Imagine trying for months, maybe years, to turn it around but never could. Maybe this is the toughest moment of your life to confront this issue. However, this moment is the biggest moment on your path to recovery.
Being able to step up and admit your problems and be honest with yourself is crucial. This allows you to let go: to let go of the anger surrounding your frustrating addiction, to let go of the emotional roller coaster you have put yourself through multple attempts of giving up, and to let go of the idea that you must face this alone. This moment allows yourself to surrender to the addiction and seek the help you need without judgement. This is because you have been fighting with yourself, not allowing yourself to see your reflection as a drug addict and as someone who has lost all control. But it’s the truth, and the truth must now be dealt with in the appropriate manner.
Having that conversation
As soon as you have allowed yourself to accept that your struggle is real and that you need help, you need to find the nearest loved one and have a serious talk with them about what is happening and how long it has been going on. Even the most embarrassing or messed up stories need to be confessed and out on the table so they know what is going on and you can both be on the same page. This is a major second step for a struggling drug addict and do not think for one second that this conversation will be easy. If you thought confessing to yourself was tough, this will be just as tough as now you are disclosing issues you have fought so long to keep under wraps. There may be a lot of shame and guilt associated with this conversation, however if you picked the right loved one there should be no judgement: just acceptance of the truth and a massive willingness to help with your problem. This conversation should shed a lot of light on your situation and all and every question they have for you, you must answer it truthfully no matter how painful it could be for you. From here, you can start to formulate a plan together, and you feel like you have someone else there with you to fight this tough addiction.
It takes a village
One of my favorite sayings is “it takes a village”. This means to say that nothing great was achieved by a single person. Every champion, every genius, and behind every success story there was a team of people helping that person strive for their very best. There is no reason why this saying should not be true for someone fighting an addiction. Just because the media has shed a negative light on it does not mean to say someone overcoming some of the deepest rooted addictions in their life isn’t as big as achievement as someone graduating from college. It takes a lot of conscious effort, a lot of sleepless nights and a lot of pain and tears to overcome any type of drug addiction. We do not understand their struggle and therefore should never judge someone before walking in their shoes. There should be no shame and guilt associated with these addictions, just forgiveness and whole hearted kindness and sympathy. Let’s keep our thoughts to ourselves and be grateful we did. Next time you see someone struggle, help them and don’t judge.